Joining us regularly in order to bring some ‘balance’ to our website and content will be our friend Liv, the founder of Livstyle Lifestyle – a little corner of the internet where she shares the highs, the lows and the downright ridiculous moments of life, including Cricket Widows Disagreements Debriefs and reflections on the Cricket Widows Summer So Far, as a self-proclaimed cricket widow – hence The Cricket Widows Club!
From the double header weekends, to the 3 hour post-match analysis. This is where Liv documents the chaos, the laughs and everything in between. If you or your partner knows the feeling of planning life around a fixtures list, you’re in the right place, its the cricket widow club you didn’t know you needed!
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January Goals vs The Fixtures List
Hey guys…
My first blog in 6 months – and I’ve only managed it because I’ve taken a day off work to get my life in check and do all the things I never manage to get done in a normal week!
Firstly, happy new year- and I hope you all had a lovely break over Christmas, which now feels a million miles away on the 79th day of January…
Like me, you’ve probably set some goals for the year and are already thinking, “Wow, we’re nearly a month in and.. wtf?” People tell you to set quarterly goals, but honestly the only thing I can think about is how much I didn’t realise cricket comes right in the middle of setting any goal!
Holidays (aka The Fixture-Controlled Getaway)
Holidays are the obvious one.
Checking the fixtures list. Trying to squeeze every extra hour into a trip.
Can we catch a 10:30pm flight after the game?
Can we land early Saturday and go straight to the match?
Which is always followed by a firm absolutely not!
The fixtures list completely controls the holiday plans- to the point that you end up not booking anything and turning to the girls to at least get one locked in. I currently have neither.. but I do always know I can rely on my Mum, Dad and Sister (also a cricket widow).
It always makes me laugh seeing posts about having 15 years of holidays with your kids.. well here I am, 28 years later and my mum and dad still haven’t been on a holiday abroad alone since before we were born! Long may that continue!
Houses, Moving Out & Big Life Goals
Talking of doing things with your parents.. I still live at home.
I’ve been with Tyler for nearly 10 years and I’ve barely even considered buying a house. He’s played cricket more than an hour from our home village for the whole time I’ve known him. His club played both Saturdays and Sundays all season (bar about three weekends), so it made sense for him to stay over there rather than drive home at 10pm and back again at 8am the next day.
And because I’m genuinely happy and content at home, I’ve always thought.. why would I move out into a house I’ll live in on my own for half the year?! So I’ve never really felt the rush.
Anyway.. this year Tyler is returning to our home club (I have been waiting for this moment for TEN YEARS ), and I am SO excited. It also means we’re thinking that a goal for us this year is to buy a house- or at least start looking.
But even that isn’t straightforward. We’d be aiming for autumn, but with full-time jobs, life admin, and cricket (and he’s captain, so we all know that’s 10 times worse ), I’m genuinely thinking.. when are we actually going to look at a house?!
Mortgage appointments? There’s no chance
At this point it feels like a hit-and-hope goal rather than a solid one- which is honestly mad when you think about it.
Weddings (aka Solo Plus-Ones)
WEDDINGS.
Has anyone got any this summer?! It’s the glancing at the calendar and just knowing you’re going alone- not even bothering to ask anymore. Any wedding that doesn’t land on a Saturday is an actual godsend.
I know people go to weddings on their own.. but this is different. Single people go thinking-Ooo I might meet someone. We go as a +1.. without the actual +1 we’re meant to be!
Your enjoyment of the day fully depends on who’s there. If the non-couply mates are there- great. If not? Down the free champagne and make a swift exit after the first dance (if you’ve lasted that long ).
The Worst One: The Cup Competitions
I can just about deal with the fixtures list… but the thing that REALLY gets me is not being able to plan anything on the non-cricket day of the weekend just in case they get through to the next round of the cup.
These are the worst.
The tiny bit of hope you might actually commit to something with friends… but you’re still replying with:
“Well, you do it and if we can be there, we will.”
HATE. HATE. HATE IT.
January Goals vs Boss Bitch Energy
And finally… us girls being girls.
We always start the year thinking, this is my year.
We’re prioritising us. Ourselves. Me.
And somehow cricket- even in the middle of January- manages to wiggle right in between you and that boss bitch energy. We morph into “we’ll do it another night” or “we’ll look at next weekend”.. and before we know it, the whole summer’s gone and we didn’t do what we actually wanted to do for us.
2026 = Our Year Too
So 2026 is for us.
We’re embracing cricket, but we’re also learning to have a healthier relationship with it. Living alongside it- not letting it completely run our lives.
We’re still setting goals.
We’re still doing what we want to do.
And we’re making it happen- no matter how much cricket tries to get in the way.
Because guess what . . . our lives matter too!!
You’re not the only one living around fixtures..
Come and join a group of girls who get it. From cancelled plans to solo weddings to “we’ll see if we can make it” energy- this is your space to talk it out.
Think of it as the group chat you’ve always needed.
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Don’t Forget . . .
And finally- if you fancy hearing a bit more about how this all started (and some behind-the-scenes widow chat), Liv a guest on the Premier League Cricket Show podcast last Autumn chatting all things Cricket Widow Club, what it’s meant to Liv, and why Liv has created something genuinely special. If you’ve ever laughed at one of her reels or messaged Liv after a long Saturday on the sidelines- this one’s for you.
You can listen to the episode now on all major podcasts providers
Apple: https://tinyurl.com/3bmsdvnh
Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/bdfrrm2x
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With thanks to Liv @ Cricket Widows Club !
